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Many years ago, and for many years, I would travel to Morocco to visit uncles, cousins, and my paternal grandmother. Some lived in Tangiers;...

Sunday, June 12, 2022

Apologies

I have all sorts of posts half done, one almost ready to go, but life, better said, death has gotten in the way.

 My oldest son, David, died suddenly at my home in Raleigh in the night/morning of June 9-10. We don't know why. The police and medical examiner took his body away and I need to call tomorrow for a report.

The Diplowife and I are devastated; those of you who have gone through the loss of a child know there is no other pain quite the same.

I will try to be back as soon as I can.

Thank you in advance for your kind thoughts and prayers.


105 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers...

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  2. You are right; the pain of losing a child is immense and overwhelming. Be very nice to yourself; many prayers for you all.

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  3. E nomine Patrii et Filii st Spiritus Sancti, Requiescat In Pace

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  4. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  5. MartinFromGermanyJune 12, 2022 at 10:07 AM

    Please accept my sincere condolences on your great loss. I will pray for you and your son. May he rest in peace.

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  6. I can't even imagine what you and your wife are going through. Words fail me but my thoughts and prayers are with you and may you both find peace in the weeks to come.

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  7. I'm sorry. With my best wishes for you and your family...

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  8. My most sincere condolences to you and yours on the death of your son. Prayers are out for your family.

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  9. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Nothing worse than the death of a child.

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  10. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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  11. I am so sorry for your loss.

    RY/
    Butch

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  12. Saddest news. I am so sorry that you have experienced this enormous loss.

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  13. You don't owe anybody apologies. I am so sorry. I hope you find comfort and acceptance in time, if that's possible. May he rest in peace.

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  14. יִתְגַּדֵּל וְיִתְקַדֵּשׁ שְׁמוֹ הַגָּדוֹל

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  15. My sincere condolences to you, and to your family. Rest in Peace to your son.

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  16. That is sad news, my condolences Dip.

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  17. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. May he rest in peace. I am so very sorry.

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  18. There are no words that can offer anything even approaching adequate comfort in a loss like this. All we can say is that we grieve with you, and pray that your son may be reunited with you one day in whatever the next life may be.

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  19. So very sorry to hear this, and I cannot imagine your emotions. We’ll be praying for you and your family

    Coelacanth

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  20. Dip, I am so sorry for your loss. We will pray for you and your family.

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  21. This is awful news. I am sorry. Nobody wants to outlive their child.

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  22. Oh Dear Lord, with heartfelt sadness,
    my tears streaming, for this tragic loss,
    and suffering within the Amselem Family...
    Pray they receive the strength they'll
    need to weather such a dark storm in
    their mostly young, and happy lives.
    Rest in Peace~~~David~~~
    +Amen and Amen+
    On Watch~~~

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  23. A most untimely and tragic loss; most heart felt sorrow and sincerest condolences for the family. -(the original Reader Nine)

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  24. I am so sorry. Sincere condolences to you and your family.

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  25. I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.

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  26. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll include you and yours in my prayers.

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  27. Please accept my deepest condolences.

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  28. After all of the stresses of the previous several years, to have this loss added is almost unbearable. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  29. I am so sorry.
    - reader #1482

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  30. My deepest condolences to You and Your family.

    /Mikgen

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  31. So sorry for your loss.

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  32. My condolences in your loss. In this very difficult time for you, we will patiently wait until you feel up to posting again. You are in my thoughts and prayers..

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  33. I lost a son suddenly nine years ago. Your grief is unimaginable. May your son now be witnessing the Beatific Vision.

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  34. Horrible news, I am very sorry for your loss. May your son Rest In Peace.

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  35. You never “get over” losing a child, you just learn to live with it. My deepest condolences to you and your wife. I am reminded of the words Samuel Clemens uttered over his daughter Suzy’s grave:

    Warm summer sun, shine friendly here
    Warm western wind, blow kindly here;
    Green sod above, rest light, rest light,
    Good-night, Sweetheart, good-night!

    May God grant you and David’s loved ones comfort.

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  36. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

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  37. Oh my God. My sincere condolences to you and your family.

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  38. My deepest condolences. I remember you writing of him proudly.

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  39. My deepest condolences. I remember you writing of him proudly. SidV

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  40. Very sorry to hear of your loss.

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  41. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. Will light an extra candle at Mass and say prayers for both David and yourselves.

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  42. Even trying to imagine that happening to my kids sends me into a near-panic. Prayers for you and your family. Take as much time as you need to grieve and process the terrible news. Your voice is important and we will be here when you return.

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  43. So very sorry for your loss. I know some of this pain too.

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  44. so sorry to hear of your loss.

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  45. Prayers 🙏🏻

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  46. Deepest condolences for such a devastating loss.

    I'm not sure if this is appropriate to bring up at this point, but what was David's vaccination history?

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  47. Sorry for you to join the club. I lost my son 9 years ago. I miss him and think about him daily.

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    1. It's a horrible club to be in, I lost my only child, my daughter 8 years ago. I can only offer you my most heart felt condolences.

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  48. Prayers to you and your family. Continue to find things for which to be grateful. Your son would want that. So so sorry.

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  49. Our condolences from Alberta for the loss of your son David. We have followed you for many years and hope that you find some solace as you grieve.

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  50. Our prayers and deep condolences to you and your family.

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  51. So sorry to hear this awful news. From France, we pray for you and your family.

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  52. Thinking of you at this time and condolences for your loss.

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  53. My condolences and thought at this time

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  54. Words fail me. Prayers for you and your family. May God send you comfort. Doug

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  55. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the depth of your grief.

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  56. Dear Dip....We have lost a child and the pain is great and we will lift your family in prayer. May God bring you comfort and grace as you need in this time. You will breathe again....it just does not feel that way now.....

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  57. Prayers from Brazil. May God comfort you all.

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  58. I am so very sorry. My prayers are with and your family.

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  59. Terrible news. So sorry for your loss. You, your family, and your son will be in my prayers.

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  60. Such awful news. Condolences to you and your family, and prayers that God will bring you comfort in this time of sorrow.

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  61. I lost a son as well, when he was quite young. My prayers are with you and your family.
    youtube.com/watch?v=d0Mtlklmna0
    Doctor Weasel

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  62. In such times words fail

    JK

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  63. I am so sorry. This is horrible news for all of us who have been reading your columns while getting to see your great joy in your family. There are no words to help except that I will pray that God will ease your family’s pain and bring back memories that will bring more joy than grief. We got to see a bit of him in your writing and I thank you for sharing him with us. Again, may God help you as a family.

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  64. My God, Dip! I am so sorry!

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  65. Few things are as bad as outliving your child. Please accept my condolences. May your memories be for a blessing.

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  66. I am so very sorry. My most sincere condolences to you and the entire family.

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  67. I am truly sorry. I know that there are no words that I can say, but I sincerely hope that time heals your pain, and may your memories comfort you and your family.

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  68. My heart is breaking for you and your family. Sending my SINCEREST condolences. I am a loss for words. Sending hugs from your former office mate from Sri Lanka (JS). I follow you. You are an inspiration.

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  69. Sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family 🙏🏻
    --Reader #8

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  70. Oh, no. I'm so sorry to hear of this.

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  71. I am so sorry to read this. God bless your family.

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  72. I have always tried to tell my children that we know no fear until we are parents, as the fear of losing a child overwhelms all others. My payers go up for you and your wife and surviving children. I weep with you. May the Lord bless you and keep you.

    Michael Adams

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  73. So sorry for your loss.

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  74. My most heartfelt condolences.May the good Lord helpypu and your family through this terrible time, and take your son to his heavenly rest.

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  75. As one who lost his beloved wife just over a year ago, you have my sympathies, my sorrows, my condolences and a share of my personal sorrow.I have her picture across from my desk; every time I hear her favourite aria, my eyes fill with tears, Take good care of those nearest and dearest:

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  76. How absolutely horrible! I am so sorry for you!

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  77. I was so sorry to read of your sudden loss of your oldest son. You and your whole family are in our prayers.

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  78. My sincere condolences to you and your family. I had the same horrible news, yesterday, form a friend. His 36-yo son died suddenly. They suspect this new Sudden Adult Death Syndrome as the cause since the autopsy showed nothing.

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  79. I’m so sorry for your loss.

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  80. If it's any consolation, nobody really dies. It just gets considerably harder to have a two way conversation for a while.

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    1. Dude, that is just...BRILLIANT. A warm, comforting thought, elegant in its simple concept, eloquent in its plainspoken directness. It says so much in a mere handful words. I love it, I truly do love it.

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  81. You and yours will be in my prayers this week. What an awful reality to be forced upon you.

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  82. G'day Dip

    Such a loss is shattering

    Min haShamayim Tenuhamu

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  83. Bless you old man. Your writings have energized and enlightened me. Your loss has pierced my heart and I weep inside for you.

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  84. You remain in our prayers.

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  85. Dear commenters & friends of the Diplomad Family...
    If I may, would like to recall a loving memory
    held in my heart of a Boy called David,
    as shared with me, and many others,
    in a story told by his Dad~~~

    Thanksgiving Day in New York, 1985. My older son, then about six was in a bad mood. I asked what was wrong, "You have no school today. Mom is making a nice Thanksgiving meal. What's wrong?" He glared at me, "The Pilgrims did not eat paella! They ate turkey!"

    Explanation. Given the Diplowife's aversion to feathery creatures, our overseas Thanksgiving Day meals consisted of seafood paella. My wife had, ahem, implied in some way . . . oh, heck, she flat out told the kids that the Pilgrims ate paella with the Indians. Maybe she was thinking about Cortez and Pizarro, I don't know, but anyhow the kids had gotten into their heads that paella was the meal on Thanksgiving. Now in NY, the older boy had been asked the previous day to make a presentation at school on Thanksgiving. He, of course, reported that the English Pilgrims sat down and shared paella with the Native Americans. This caused a bit of a commotion and, I guess, led to some considerable ridicule, or what the politically correct nanny-staters now would label "bullying."

    He was furious with us. He refused to eat paella and demanded a turkey. Even my wife was shocked into submission by the uncompromising fury coming from the tyke. It was Thanksgiving Day. I had to find a turkey in Manhattan! I dashed out of our building on the upper east side. All of the supermarkets were closed. A turkey! My kingdom for a turkey! I wandered the cold, darkling desolate concrete canyons, my despair growing and threatening to overwhelm me. I had let down my kids! The wages of sin, the consequences of falsehoods! God give me a sign that You will allow me to redeem myself . . . Wait! A deli! Still open but about to close! I ran in! Turkey sandwiches! They must have a turkey somewhere! A bizarre negotiation followed in which I finally convinced the suspicious Pakistani owner of the "Jewish" deli to sell me a whole kosher turkey at the price per pound of the sliced sandwich meat. I paid him a fortune--in cash--for a small bird about the size of a Chihuahua, and ran like the Grinch with my turkey under my arm.

    My kids had turkey that day, and every other Thanksgiving since then has featured a big bird on the table. My wife refuses to sit anywhere near it, and has her own separate fish-based meal.

    This will be an issue on the Fourth of July. The Thanksgiving paella got moved to Independence Day. The kids, now grown, of course, alas, are starting to make noises of impending rebellion against paella and in favor of hot dogs and other beast meat. The Diplowife mistrusts hotdogs, even the kosher all-beef ones, as stealth chicken missiles. She does not want anything with the potential of bearing fowl touching our BBQ grill or being anywhere near anything else that might be cooking. It appears that we might have a split Fourth meal. One side of the family eating chicken wings and hotdogs, and the other with the paella. Now that I think about it, this seems an appropriate metaphor for what is happening to our country.
    RIP~~~

    On Watch~~~
    Posted by DiploMad at 9:31 AM
    Excerpted from a repost dated:
    Thursday, November 22, 2018
    https://thediplomad.blogspot.com/2018/11/a-repost-on-cultural-appropriation-of.html#comment-form





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  86. Auwe. My heart breaks for you and your family.

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  87. Deepest condolences from Canada.

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  88. Sincere condolences, I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. Prayers for you and yours.

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  89. That is shocking. I'm so sorry for your loss.

    Deepest condolences from Italy.

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  90. The loss is devastating. We are grieving with you. May you gather strength from the countless beautiful memories.

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  91. Paul and Dr. Marleen ZecchinoJune 17, 2022 at 8:51 AM

    Please accept our condolences for your sudden heartwrenching loss. It is impossible to imagine your agony. Words fail, but to say that in his time, our Creator will wipe away every tear to the delight of all.

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  92. My condolences. It is so grievous for a parent to bury a child.

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  93. How unspeakably awful. My deepest sympathy to you and your family

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  94. I am so sorry for your loss.

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  95. I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers for you, for your family and for him.

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  96. Mike from Coldd Fury told me... Words fail. May he find peace beyond this veil of tears and you comfort in knowing his burden is over

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  97. The pain will never reduce to zero, but it will reduce. Condolences.

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  98. I am hearing this late. I’m so very sorry for your loss and can’t imagine such pain.

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  99. I am so so sorry to read this sad news. Condolences from Alberta to you and your wife and your family. I too have lost a son and know how devastated you are feeling. My thoughts are with you all and I wish you strength.

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